Sooo much has happened this year and I honestly have to say that a lot of it was unexpected. It has definitely been one for the books! GOD is CRAZY FAITHFUL! For real.
I know it has been a while since I’ve written a blog that wasn’t about “Reflections from the Kitchen: A 31- Day Devotional Cookbook,” but I wanted to close out the year with some encouragement for my singles! I know I don’t often write about relationships per se, but this has been on my heart for a few weeks.
I want to share 3 things with you (without sounding too cliche) to help you navigate the rest of the holiday season (and any season) as a single/unmarried person.
Note: I do not have all of the answers. I am solely speaking from experience and want to share some things that help me and some of the other singles that I know. So, let’s get to it!
First thing’s first…stay in your lane
Yes, I said it. Stay in your lane. God has a plan for each of us. And all of our experiences are unique. Perfect for us because our stories were written by the best story-teller. Now, don’t get me wrong…I don’t mean stay in your lane as in don’t try new things or be open to new experiences and growth. I mean, don’t think that just because you see someone else with something you don’t have as the opportunity to compare and wonder why you haven’t ‘arrived’ yet. Don’t take someone else’s blessings and abundance to mean there’s a deficit in your life.
That’s a word.
Staying in your lane means knowing that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Staying in your lane means knowing that there is a purpose for every season. Staying in your lane means that you know you are not missing out on anything and that you have not been forgotten.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die…He has made everything beautiful in its time…
Staying in your lane also means taking time to truly nurture your relationship with God and with yourself. Which leads me to number two.
Know that your life is right on schedule
When we live life scratching at and competing for a life that we have convinced ourselves that we are missing out on…we miss the chance to spend intimate time with the One who loves and values us no matter what our relationship status is. The One who already loves you with an everlasting love!
…yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.
You see, the world may frown upon those who are single past the age of 25. Other Christians may secretly ask themselves, “what’s wrong with her? she’s still not married yet?” And if you’re lucky enough…others may be bold enough to ask you, “So, when are you finally getting married?”
I know it’s frustrating but can I share something with you? Throughout life, there will be people projecting their opinions and preferences onto your life. That’s why we must stay plugged into our Source. That’s why we must understand that we are NOT behind. We are right on schedule. And we are perfectly positioned to dedicate more of our life to things that glorify Him.
Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
2 Timothy 2:15
God can never run out of blessings…so rejoice with your tribe!
I want to end by sharing how important it is to be GENUINELY happy for your friends, family, etc. who are getting into relationships, getting engaged during the holiday season, getting married, having children, progressing in their purpose, starting a new job, etc. I truly mean that. If you can’t be GENUINELY happy for them…it may be a good time to evaluate your heart and pray for God to heal you from whatever is getting in the way of you being able to rejoice with those who are rejoicing.
Contrary to culture…God cannot and will not run out of blessings! I repeat…God cannot and WILL NEVER run out of blessings. Think about it. God is the God of all creation. He is more than capable of providing the desires of your heart according to His perfect will. So expressing genuine joy and support when your tribe is being blessed will take nothing away from you. In fact, I can pretty much guarantee that you will become even more joyful when you see them basking in their happiness. Try it. And let me know how it works out for you. 🙂
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.
I know the holiday season can be challenge. But don’t allow it to get the best of you. I pray that these few nuggets will help you regain the right perspective. And that you will push through the new year with a heart of gladness not just for yourself, but for others!