You may or may not hear this phrase a lot. But, being in the social work field, I’ve been hearing it referenced more often than not. The term is often used to express how important it is for women of color, specifically, African American women to be represented in spaces that typically exclude them. This may include the beauty industry, media, STEM fields, leadership roles, and so much more. Most recently, I learned the significance of this term when several people pointed out the cover of Reflections from the Kitchen: A 31-Day Devotional Cookbook.
When I was originally selecting the cover, I knew right away that I wanted my photo to be on the cover. Not because of vanity. But because, as a new author, I want people to be able to put a face to my name. Little did I know, GOD had a greater purpose for it, that wouldn’t slowly reveal itself during the coming months.
Now, back to the title of this blog post. A couple of weeks ago, several times in one week, it was brought to my attention how inspired girls and women were when they saw the cover of my book. When they saw that a girl who looks like them was not only on the cover of a book, but was the actual author of the book. The timing of this was NO coincidence.
This particular week, I was struggling with feeling ‘stuck’ in a few areas of my life. Spiritually, financially, creatively. And if you know what it’s like at all to run a nonprofit, it can be very unpredictable. It’s not for the faint at heart, but it is ALL worth it when you know you’re walking in the purpose that God has mapped out for your life. That’s why I am so grateful for my tribe. Because ya girl needs multiple heads to continue executing the vision God has given me! And to maintain my sanity. lol
So, like I was saying, a friend of mine’s aunt saw my book this particular week and she said, “oh my goodness there’s a Black girl on this book!! And she’s the author!!” When my friend told her she knew me, she got even more excited. Which literally almost brought me to tears. I’m being dramatic, but I’m not. Because I never considered how that might make other young women feel. I never considered that as one of the first things that might come to mind when girls and women see the cover.
Several days later, I was teaching Sunday school when one of the sisters brought her granddaughter in. When the little girl (maybe 6-years-old) saw me, she ran up to me and screamed, “oh my goodness, that’s Mia! The girl on the book!” She was grinning from ear to ear. Which rubbed off on me. She said this 3-4 times, and looked at her grandmother to make sure she witnessed what she was talking about. Then, she gave me a hug, which really warmed my soul, y’all.
Later that SAME day, another little girl (maybe 8 or 9 years-old)–a daughter of one of the sisters that I serve in a ministry with. Came up to me to show me a book of her Pokemon cards and whispered to me, “you’re really good at making books, you should make one like this!” Referring to a book of Pokemon cards. I thought to myself, “I didn’t even know this baby knew about my book.” So I told her, “how about you make one since you love Pokemon, and I’ll help you?!” She agreed.
Later that afternoon, we were doing a vision board activity, and I was stuck on trying to figure out 3 things that I am good at (that was one of the questions we had to answer on our board). She could tell I was struggling, and she encourages, “You’re good at writing books!”
Then, when it came time to present our vision boards, guess who decided to format hers into a book? You guessed it!! The same little girl. *insert real happy tears*
We have a future author on our hands. Shoot, if you ask me, she’s already a published author for making this!
Y’all. I don’t cry at the drop of a hat. But I was real life touched because that was a not so subtle reminder that people you don’t know are watching…are watching. Closer than you think. It reminded me that other girls and women are depending on me to boldly, fearlessly, and humbly, pursue my God given purpose. It’s SO much bigger than I am. SO MUCH! They need to see that nothing is beyond their reach. They need to know that God is with them. They need to see that you don’t have to have all of the answers, have it all together to START. They need to see that you don’t have to have a million dollars in the bank to make an impact. They can start where they are.
I share all of this to say that even in the moments or seasons that you feel ‘stuck,’ keep going. Do it anyway. You’ll be glad you did. Don’t operate in your feelings, but instead, in God’s truth. His plan. Whatever ‘it’ is that God has called you to do…when we make it about ourselves, we tend to operate from feelings, comfort-ability, pride, and whatever is going on around us. But, when we seek God’s Kingdom FIRST, we gain the right perspective to see that everything we do is meant to bring glory to His name.
“But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” Matthew 6:33
This applies to our jobs, our relationships, projects that we are working on, the reputation we create for ourselves, etc. It’s all supposed to draw people closer to Him.
If you can relate to ever feeling stuck, remember this:
- It may not feel like it right now, but you will get un-stuck
- These moments can and should be used to examine your “why”
- Seasons where you feel ‘stuck’ and your faith is being tested, you will come out stronger on the other side
- Jesus can relate
What are some ways that you can overcome feeling ‘stuck?’
If you made it this far…you so real! lol While I have you, in case you haven’t grabbed your copy of Reflections from the Kitchen yet, or you want to get one for a friend/sister/etc, head over to Amazon, or get your signed copy here!