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Overcoming Life’s Plateau

Happy New Year friends!! 🎉🎊🎉

Cheers to the FIRST Farkarwa blog of the year!  Although I journal semi-often, I have missed blogging/sharing! About 6 weeks ago, I took (and am still on) a social media sabbatical.  While I still maintain my Own Your Peach nonprofit pages, I needed a break from everything that social media brings.  Don’t you get like that sometimes?  While I am not against social media altogether, I do believe it is important for us to scoot back from the table sometimes, to re-prioritize (if that is something you have lost sight of).  In my case, while I hadn’t forgotten my priorities, I found myself refreshing my apps wayyyyyy too often…TYPICALLY out of boredom or idleness.  Y’all know the routine… 😉

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lean Spiritual Journey

Enough Is Enough…

On November 6, I decided that enough was enough!  Had I had enough of mourning over a bad breakup? Nope! I finally decided that I was tired of neglecting the importance of TRULY taking care of myself. From the inside out. Tired of NOT nurturing the temple that God loaned me while I spend time on this earth. I no longer felt like MIA! Vibrant, young, energetic, resilient, brilliant, and limitless. Instead, I felt sluggish, unhealthy, and frankly, I didn’t like how my clothes were starting to fit (Vain? Maybe. True? Absolutely!).

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Spiritual Journey

Flawed and worthy

Hey everybody!

I know it’s been a while! But…for good reason. I always want my posts to be intentional, have substance, and to never post just for the sake of posting. That, plus trying to maintain my sanity with school, having a life, Own Your Peach, work, interning, etc…. things have been HECTIC. But, I have no complaints!

Anywhoo, I prayed for some inspiration about what my next dose of spiritual food for the soul should be. So, I have returned with something that has been on my heart for the last couple of weeks.

Have you ever thought to yourself, ‘Am I really worthy of all this?! I have sooo many flaws!’ or what about this one, ‘This is too good to be true…so I won’t even enjoy it.’ Or one of my favorites, ‘I’m just going to sabotage or end this because it’s not going to work out the way I want it to anyway.’ How TOXIC are these thoughts to our daily lives, especially those of us who are supposed to be putting our faith and trust in God and God alone?  I find that the things that are most difficult to trust God with, are the things that we:

a.) have little to no control over b.) things that we have never seen manifested in our lives or the lives of those around us or c.) because we are imperfect, we have a hard time believing that God would bless us with something so amazing.

 But, true faith requires us to walk with the expectation that God knows and wants what is best for us (Jeremiah 29:11-13). And that He will provide us with the desires of our hearts, according to HIS good and perfect will (1 John 5: 14-15).

When I find myself in those moments of doubt, I have to remind myself that there is absolutely nothing in this world that is out of reach. Every bit of joy, peace, love, and purpose that exists can be mine. This goes for all of us. I have a number of goals that I am currently seeking God’s will for. And there are times that cause me to wonder if the hiccups in the road of this journey are a sign that it isn’t meant to be, or if it just for the testing of my faith. What I DO know is, the testing of our faith produces patience (James 1:3-4).  Patience to wait on God to guide us into His will, which requires us to “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you” Matthew 6:33.  Patience for God to produce for us the fruit of our labor. Patience that allows us to enjoy the journey that God is trying to take us on…if only we follow Him. And patience that gives us time to remember, “I am worthy. Flawed, but still worthy!!  AND patience and faith to know that when our plans fall through (as they often do), that GOD has something sooo much better in store. Waiting for us to receive it.

Finally, if I am a daughter of the King…doesn’t that automatically make me qualified to receive the blessings that He has for me?  Yes, it does. May we straighten our crowns, give our hearts to Him, and remember yes, I am flawed. But I am STILL worthy.

Farkarwa

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Spiritual Journey

The Case of the ‘Others’

“The Case of the Others”

Hey my people!

Who expected to get double the fun today?  Yay for back-to-back blog posts!!  I figured I’d make up for lost time…a few weeks to be exact. 🙂

Anywhoo, today’s post is derived from some thoughts I’ve been having over the last week or so.  Thoughts that involved my concern for what ‘others’ will think or say about me and the choices I make.  You see, most people are not bold enough to make negative remarks to our face.  So instead, they stand on the sidelines, taking a survey of the life GOD gave us, and start criticizing in their own way.  Well, when this happens repeatedly over time, we can become too involved in their opinion of us.  As children of God, this is not healthy.  Now, yes, we are commanded in Matthew 5:13 to be careful of the things we say and do so that our influence to lead others to Christ is not hindered.  It reads: “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned?  It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.”  That is not to suggest that we should live our lives based on the opinions of others.  When I realized what I was doing, I immediately stopped and prayed to God and asked Him to remove any negative self-talk from my heart and replace them with His truth!  His truth that my eyes should remain on Him and Him alone Hebrews 12:2. Then, I reached out to a good sister-friend of mine, asking her to pray on my behalf as well.  Prayers of the righteous avails much!!  You see, “the case of the others” is something that I want and NEED to overcome.  Am I alone?  If not, I want to share 5 things that I am committed to doing rid myself of this AWFUL disease!

5 Reasons that I am committed to ridding myself of “The Case of the Others”:  

  1. They do not determine your final resting place.
  2. They do not pay your bills.
  3. They do not contribute to your life in any significant way.
  4. Their opinions about you do not have the power to shift the direction of your life that GOD has ordained for you.
  5. Knowing that you are walking in God’s plan for your life supersedes any form of negative self-talk that the devil wants to send your way

Please feel free to share this with friends, family, etc. that you think might benefit from these practical take-aways!!

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One more thing!!

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Enjoy a few more below 🙂

Farkarwa

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Spiritual Journey

But what about me?

Hey everyone!

I really wanted to share this piece with you all because I, just like everyone else need some encouragement.  Its wedding season, ‘baecation’ season, and whatever else season.  If I’m allowed to be brutally honest…it gets a bit gag-worthy sometimes.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I LOVE LOVE.  And I love seeing genuine, true, pure love illustrated in front of the masses.  That is something I look forward to sharing with my huzbin some day.  But not TOday.  Some of you may be thinking…but what about ME?  When is it going to be my turn?  When will I get to share my #MCM (is that even a thing anymore?), my engagement pictures and my wedding pictures?!  I’s tired of waiting Lord!

Let me stop you there.  I GET IT!  I reaaaallly do.  I mean, God created us for companionship.  Spiritual, social, and romantic companionship.  That’s not to say that everyone will get married…because not everyone will.  But trust me when I say I understand your sentiments.  I’m single as a dollar bill myself. 🙂 May I encourage you for a few moments?  I want to share a few practical things that I do to ‘check myself’ out of idolizing relationships.  In doing so, they empower me to rededicate myself to my #1 relationship.  Which is with Christ! Now, I’m not here to tell you to “stop thinking about it” or to guilt you into believing the desires of your heart are sinful. I just simply want to suggest some things that may help change your perspective/focus from idolozing anything or anyone but our Creator.

I do not have all of the answers.  Heck, I don’t even claim or pretend to have A LOT of the answers.  I am just blessed to have a village that sees fit to pour into my spirit which allows me to grow as a woman.

Below are just a few things that are working for me, that I hope and pray will lift your spirit and help you as well!

*Motive check*

What is driving your desire for companionship, courtship, and marriage?  Is it because ‘everyone else is doing it?’  Is it because you are feeling the pressures of the ‘late-twenties-early thirties blues?’  Is it because your parents love saying, “I sure want some grandbabies” while giving you the grin and side-eye? (I love you mama…I know you mean well! Lol).  If any of the above are reasons for your burning desire or envious nature, cut it.  Embrace and rest in this thought: “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart” Psalm 37:4 New King James Version.  This is a reminder to enjoy and appreciate the time that we are able to spend with God while we can.  Talking with Him, studying His word, and applying His word.  Growing closer to Him daily.  Being a light to the world around us.  We should take pleasure in His word and His promises.  While you’re at it, remind yourself of this passage as well: “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” Romans 8: 28 NKJV.  Things will work out for you.  Perfectly.  According to the will of God.  And He will exceed your expectations.

*Readiness/Purpose check*

Ask yourself: “Am I truly ready for what it is that I am praying and asking for?”  “Would I date, court, and marry me?”  For a long time, I didn’t really know what that looked like.  Today, I continuously evaluate myself and compare where I am to where I was 3 months ago.  6 months ago.  And so on.  Am I stagnant?  Am I growing?  Am I growing spiritually?  As a woman, daughter, sister, Christian, friend, etc?  If not…I am nowhere near ready to become someone’s lifelong companion.  Someone’s wife.

Am I at least actively evolving towards whole womanhood?  For me, this includes several things. It includes viewing myself as a woman through the eyes of God, NOT the world. And being made whole in that truth. It also includes actively seeking and pursuing my God-ordained purpose.  This includes pursuing my post-graduate degree in social work and relaunching Own Your Peach.  It even includes strengthening my relationship with those around me, my loved ones. Think about what this looks like for you.  Ecclesiastes Chapter 3 reminds us that there is a time, place, and a season for everything.  This includes the season of singleness you are currently in.  No matter what season we are in, we must take full advantage of using it to its full potential to please God.

*Realize and embrace the beauty of the NOW*

Instead of dwelling on what I do not have or what I want in the future, I am learning to live by this principle: I will continue seeking and walking in my purpose.  My husband will find me along the way.  I believe the same is true for you as well, friend.  Mainly because God already has a plan for our lives.  Through faith and obedience, things will manifest themselves in His perfect timing.  This applies to every aspect of our lives.  Not just romance.  Jeremiah 29: 11 teaches us that God wants only what is best for us: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” NKJV.  Knowing this truth, we can rest in and fully embrace the now, because God has already worked it out!

I hope and pray that these little truths encourage you on your journey, as we journey together!

Farkarwa ❤

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